Stop Being Easily Offended: Patient & Gentleness Series #7

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

It's been a while since I post on this topic. The reason is I struggle with applying the lesson myself. I heard messages on this particular subject 3 times at different occasions. God must know I am a slow learner and really need to work on this. 

A guest pastor at our church used this illustration below to get his point through:

Are you a peach, an orange, or a nut?
- A peach is sweet in the inside but very soft on the outside. It's easily bruised. 
- A nut, on the other hand, has a hard shell and thick skin. They are insensitive; even if you can crack them, they are still hard on the inside. Commonly more men fall into this category than women.
- An orange is sweet in the inside yet the outer skin is firm & flexible and not easily bruised. 

As Christians, we ought to be like orange.  "Do not take to heart all the things that people say, lest you hear your servant cursing you. Your heart knows that many times you yourself have cursed others." Ecclesiastes 7:21-22 

We should not be easily offended.  Instead, we ought to "practice the habit of overlooking offenses, take the high road, give the offender the benefit of the doubt, and move on. " Michael Hyatt said in his podcast titled:  Why Effective Leaders Cannot Afford to Be Easily Offended.

Other good points that Michael mentioned:

  1. Offenses are inevitable.
  2. Offenses are usually unintentional.
  3. Offenses can be good for us.
  4. Being offended is a choice.
I am a sensitive person whose feeling easily bruised like a peach, but I want and am working on to be an orange. Being an orange is definitely much better for my emotional health and my relationship with other people.   

It has been months and I am still working on it. I have to remind myself over and over that being offended is a choice. In addition, I can also choose to understand, accept, and forgive others. 

"A person's wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense" 
Proverbs 11: 12