Parenting with Kindness

Monday, October 5, 2015

Kara Tippetts in her blog Mundane Faithfulness shared about Parenting Kindness  
"Anger does not beget heart change; it begets shame. Yelling does not beget understanding; it begets hurt. Harsh words do not beget love; they beget humiliation. Intimidation does not beget kindness; it begets fear. Only kindness begets kindness; kindness begets love.
I’ve already seen a return on my investment; as I trust God to help me respond to my rebellious children in kindness and love instead of fear and anger, these young hearts are learning that kindness is always right and they treat each other with kindness. What a joy for my mama’s heart!
"Your time spent pursuing love will not be wasted. The time spent embracing your moments, reading that extra bedtime book, sitting together to dinner, loving a child in their unkindness and weakness matter. Live each moment knowing even your unseen movement toward love and away from unkindness matters."

Kara passed away a few months ago but her message on Love and Kindness lives on.

I pray that I can be a kind, loving, and joyful mother like her but I still struggle daily to be patient and gentle until Joy Forney shared her secret:

Three Things that has been helpful  for me:
1. I started to make 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 the top of my 'To-Do List'

2. Pray and choose verses to memorize. 
Ephesians 4:32 "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
James 1:19 " Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."
Philippians 2:14 " Do everything without complaining and arguing."
Ephesians 4:29 " Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."
Proverbs 31:26 "She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue."

3. Write it down on the palm of my hand

The kids started asking about the verse on my hand and want me to write down the verse on their hands too so this become our family project.