Parenting Lesson from Max

Friday, July 6, 2012

   taken from pinterest

One morning, I was making a pot of coffee but then I lost my grip, spilled the coffee, and made a HUGE mess. The coffee got all over the wall, stove, the floor, the cabinet, appliances:

Max and Wes were eating their breakfast when that happened.
Me: "Oh noooo...."
then I heard a reply: 

Max, "It's okay, Ma. You can clean it up. Mama enggak sengaja bisa buat lagi. (translation: it's an accident. You can clean it up and make it again.")
I was very upset at myself for being so clumsy but his words made me feel gratefulI often say that sentence to him whenever he accidentally spilled or dropped things. 
Although there were times when I lost my cool and spoke the negative phrases instead: "Why can you be more careful?", "How many times do I have to clean up your mess? :(

It's so true:  "We Reap What We Sow". If I sow patience, I will reap patience; if I sow anger, I will reap anger; If I sow grace, I will reap grace; If I sow condemnation, I will reap condemnation; If I sow gentleness, I will reap gentleness; If I set too high expectation, I will crush their spirit. 

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1
"The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly" Proverbs 15: 2

"The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit." Proverbs 15: 4
"A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit." Proverbs 15: 13

Lord, help me to guard my heart and my tongue. Help me to speaks only words that make souls stronger; words that build others up and not tearing them down.

In case you're wondering, I am happy to show you my cleaned kitchen corner :)

PS: Michelle Duggar wrote a great post titled Zero Expectations here


  1. :) I would do exactly the same thing if it happened to me!! I hate messes and I tend to beat myself up when I screw up!!!

    You raised a great boy!!! Good job Max!!! :)