Monday, October 5, 2015

Parenting with Kindness

Kara Tippetts in her blog Mundane Faithfulness shared about Parenting Kindness  
"Anger does not beget heart change; it begets shame. Yelling does not beget understanding; it begets hurt. Harsh words do not beget love; they beget humiliation. Intimidation does not beget kindness; it begets fear. Only kindness begets kindness; kindness begets love.
I’ve already seen a return on my investment; as I trust God to help me respond to my rebellious children in kindness and love instead of fear and anger, these young hearts are learning that kindness is always right and they treat each other with kindness. What a joy for my mama’s heart!
"Your time spent pursuing love will not be wasted. The time spent embracing your moments, reading that extra bedtime book, sitting together to dinner, loving a child in their unkindness and weakness matter. Live each moment knowing even your unseen movement toward love and away from unkindness matters."

Kara passed away a few months ago but her message on Love and Kindness lives on.

I pray that I can be a kind, loving, and joyful mother like her but I still struggle daily to be patient and gentle mom until Joy Forney shared her secret:

Three Things that has been helpful  for me:
1. I started to make 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 the top of my 'To-Do List'

2. Pray and choose verses to memorize. 
Ephesians 4:32 "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
James 1:19 " Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."
Philippians 2:14 " Do everything without complaining and arguing."
Ephesians 4:29 " Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."
Proverbs 31:26 "She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue."

3. Write it down on the palm of my hand

The kids started asking about the verse on my hand and want me to write down the verse on their hands too so this become our family project.

Saturday, September 12, 2015

The Kitchen Before and a sneak peak

Our home renovation is done and we are now back home living and loving it. It is still 1000 square feet with one bathroom but much more functional with working heater, A/C, windows, doors, kitchen.

Speaking of kitchen, I took the time to take few shot of the old kitchen before it got a makeover

There was a wall that separate the kitchen and the living room.

I still can cook and bake but the lack of surface and storage makes it a harder and more time consuming.

The cabinets and drawers was the original ones built in 1960.

The 1960's kitchen exhaust fan

The kitchen before lunch or dinner

The kitchen after I cleaned it up a little bit :)

The double sinks:

The mess under the sink:

The upper cabinet on the left:


the bottom part:

For closure, the cabinets have these sharp metal things (definitely not a child friendly feature)

The dining area

There wasn't enough space under the sink so we have to put our recycle bin at the corner or the room

The linoleum floor:

The popcorn ceiling

It wasn't pretty but thankfully it doesn't looks like that anymore.

A little peak of our brighter, lighter, and more functional kitchen after the renovation:

I will share more once I get chance to clean up and take pictures.

'Till next time

Monday, September 7, 2015

Wesley's First Swim Competition

The boys started swimming lesson this summer. After two months of practicing, we asked if they want to participate in a swim meet. Wes said he would love to

while Max said not this time.

The event number that he was participating: backstroke and freestyle

He fell down and got bruises two days before the competition and was having a hard time walking but still determined to swim.

Checking out the event

Getting ready

Get set, go!

Getting ready for the freestyle round

His wonderful instructor happened to be on break and was able to swim along with him this time:

almost there, Wes.

and he did it!

We learned later on that he won first place in the 4 years old group for both freestyle and backstroke. There maybe only 2-3 competitors though but still it was a great experience. :)

Friday, September 4, 2015

The Summer I stop blogging

Hi!!! It's been a while I know, sorry. We are still here but life has been full (in a good way). I tell you all about it if you stick around to read this post. :)

Before summer, Chris and I decided it's time to renovate our 1000 square feet home to make it more livable. You remember the heater was broken and our one and only bathroom was leaking a few days after we move in. We fixed the bath room but the heater was still broken. After some planning, calculating, and discussing, we decided it's better to renovate now than going through another winter without heater.

So we packed our stuffs and move them to the garage while we moved in to our friends' house for 10 days then moved in to another friends' apartment the next month.

So grateful for kind and generous friends. We got to play with their lovely pet while they were on vacation

and play with their things:

Max finished first year of Chinese School last June.

Can't thank God enough for this school, sweet friends, and loving teachers.

Didi started biking two wheels last summer too, just a few months after he turned four.

So we are now can bike on our own. Yayyy!!!

We had been biking a few times with group of friends.

The renovation start with getting rid of the popcorn ceiling, carpet, and dividing wall between the kitchen and living room.

We are blessed with friends and relatives visit too during the summer:

The kids started swimming lesson at the end of June and loving it.

while I sit at the side, learning from the instructor, and going through my Summer Reading List

We've been swimming with friends

and visiting the library often

while still doing some learning

in summer style of course.

This challenge was to build Magna Tiles {we saved and waited a long time to get this toy and loving it!} that's higher than mama:

It's been good to have the big boy back in the kitchen. He is usually in Chinese School when I cook dinner.

The boys joined a few weeks of Chinese summer camp and Vacation Bible School

Chris' sister and his family were visiting for a few days so we brought them to Tahoe.

We were here when started off our relationship. So grateful to have this wonderful man to journey this life together these past 15 years.

We stayed at this cool hotel called Basecamp

Max lost four of his baby teeth so far.

I never taught I would be brave enough to pull my baby's teeth but so far the score is mama: 2, dentist: 2, and papa: 0

He turned 7 this year. I wrote on the balloon our wishes and prayers and have him read them in the morning. He loves it so much that we still keep the balloon until now. He never like cake so we opted for Beard Papa puffs instead.

He passed his belt test and moved on to yellow belt. Well done, buddy! The theory test wasn't easy. He had to memorize a long description word by word, which took him two days, tears and frustration, countless words of encouragement, prayers, and inspiration stories of his grandpa who never say the word, "can't" and his God Grandma/ Bobo whose "can do" attitude made her decide to go to another mission trip at 76 years young. Before the test I was about to offer but he asked me first, "Ma, could you pray for me?" We did pray and he passed the test. Thank God!

So that's the summary of our summer. After moving 3 times, our house is finally done and we are back home. Fiuhhhh. The boys are back to (home)school and Chinese School in afternoon. I look forward to be able to blog regularly again. I promise the next post won't be 3 months later. :)

Have a blessed weekend!